Why Straight Men Hate Gay Men : Responding and correcting information

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The following rant is in response to a blog posting that is circulating Facebook.
http://pulkitfacesreality.blogspot.in/2012/09/why-heterosexual-men-hate-homosexual-men.html

Though the bloggers intent was good hearted, his serious lack of correct information has an extremely hazardous potential threat to both the gay and straight community. I did not send this as a response to him but I will send it as a statement to the blogosphere at large. I am not trying to be his boss or editor and I am aware that his is an opinion based blog post, however, spreading incorrect and outdated facts only hurts the people who are closeted, not exposed to as much, or are unsure about their own place and  identity in the world. My facts are not outdated, and I am only trying to educate, update, and enlighten his point of view and knowledge of the gay community

1- Lack of marriage.There are many religious ceremonies binding two people together in wedlock. (Jewish, christian, catholic, wiccan,etc.) The marriage aspect is on a governmental level, and changes form country to country. The USA has recently succeeded in several states to recognize gay marriage and all the legal rights that go along with it.

1a- The issue of children is every parents concern, gay or straight. The problem isn't in the parents but the school educational "forms" system. This part you got right, however, it is a parents responsibility to bypass the red tape and get their children the education they need and deserve no matter what problems may arise with forms. That will never stop a parent, gay straight or otherwise.

2- Lack of family life, before and after coming out. This is all on an individual basis. The vast majority of people that come out have extremely happy, full, and supportive family lives. In fact in many cases it brings people closer b/c it takes so much strength and trust in your loved ones to come out that a new level of bonding occurs. Of course, this is the best case scenario and some may not be that lucky, but having a family in your life does not mean they have to be of your blood, as many gay men create their own family and support system in their friends and community.

3- Gay men are not chasing after straight men. Yes you have the occasional industry people, and those wanting to "get a head", but just because a gay man thinks a straight man in hot, that doesn't mean he wants them sexually or in any way at all. Men, on a genetic level, are very superficially aroused creatures. We see something pretty we take notice.

4- Homosexuality is NOT a new species. Homosexual relationships are and always have been part of the animal kingdom throughout evolution. Humans and a few other mammals are the only species that actually pairs off monogamously and humans are the only ones that actually have the ability, if they choose to live their lives as straight or gay, contrary to what their were genetically predetermined to be, as we are the only self aware mammals who exercise free will that we are aware of.

5- "Well it’s a fact that homosexual guys don’t prefer to marry as there is no support and no procedure which can give them the happiness and joy of a married life, most of them spend their life alone cropped up in casual sex encounters and one night stands, seeing from outside there is no life at all as children and parents support makes a family but in homosexual cases most of the guys remain in stress and torture as there is no family life specially after there confession as gay." 
---> A lot of this was already said but I had to break down this particularly dense segment of craziness. I don't even know where to begin on this quote. The blanket statements, the misinformed cultural opinions, or event the phrase"stress and torture" are just all so horribly wrong. 

a) Marriage does not guarantee happiness, even in straight couples that get married and divorced faster and more often than gay couples
b) Most gay/straight  will have one nightstands or casual sex b/c men are physically rigged to be that way, regardless of sexuality. That being said, everyone plays the field until they find someone to love and love them back, no matter how long or short that time frame is, its universal and not bound by orientation
c) Stress and torture from lack of family life, kids, especially after they come out? I don't know about you, but life in general is stressful, and can feel torturous at times. Coming to terms with who you are as a person is a very difficult thing and it is different for everyone. For some it is easy, for others not so much. But it is no less stressful than any major life decision that anybody makes for the rest of their life, b/c it has a profound effect on the rest of your said life. These decisions are never made lightly and often require a lot of inner strength.

6- Media is and always has been out to make a buck, but with exposure comes intrigue and curiosity. If one kid watches a will and grace, or glee episode and thinks better about themselves as identifying with being gay instead of suicide, then the media should continue to do what they do. BTW, the "Gay Hollywood Machine" is very aware of their impact on the gay community and for the last decade or so been on the forefront for education, fun, lightheartedness, and political awareness in all media venues. Thank you Hollywood.

7- You didn't even really touch on why you believe straight men hate gay men. Th truth behind this one is and always has been not by sexual orientation but by men being men. As males we have this hormone called testosterone that affects the brain, emotional responses, and all sorts of fun little things. Getting to the core of it is as simple as one buy being threatened by another for any number of reasons. The gay aspect usually comes from a lack of insecurity,  sexual confusion, or just confusion in general b/c straight men think that gay men are so different, when in fact we are not. This is backed up by decades of genetic and psychological studies.

I apologize to everyone who read this response blog post, but it had to be done. Getting upset, writing it down , or responding to the individual would have been fine but the post is circulating and though it is not my individual responsibility to correct it, I still felt the need to educate and enlighten.
Please note that future posts will probably not be as "heavy" as this one.


- Mischief Matt